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Will the real Prince Charming please stand up? A message for guys (and girls, too)...
by Melanie Bockmann

There's a not-so-subtle message I've been seeing in the media over and over, and just recently, I noticed it again in the movie Brave..

Last week, I saw the Pixar movie Brave. The movie follows the path of Princess Merida, who is better than most men with a bow and arrow, and has an impulsive temper that matches her fiery red hair. Her parents have decided it’s time for Merida to get married and they’ve assembled the region’s most suitable young men to compete for her hand. Merida, however, has her own vision of future happiness, and it doesn’t include any of the silly princes available to her, so she consults a witch to give her a spell to change her life…only, it’s not exactly the spell she was hoping for, and she has very little time to undo the wrong she has done before the spell becomes permanent… 

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This isn’t a review of the entire movie. While there are a few things I could talk about with regard to the movie, I’d like to focus on one aspect, and it’s something I’ve noticed not just in movies like Brave, but in sitcoms and commercials, too, and it bothers me: where did all of the respectable male characters go? 

In Brave, Merida and her mother, Elinor—the only two major female characters besides the crafty witch—appear to be the only intelligent creatures in the whole country. Her father, King Fergus, is such a doofus that he can’t even address his subjects without his wife telling him what to say. The three lords who bring their sons to the competition, Lord MacGuffin, Lord Macintosh and Lord Dingwall (nice name), are equally idiotic and ridiculous. Then we meet their sons, the guys who are Merida’s potential suitors, and find out that they each bring their own increasingly unbelievable level of stupidity and ridiculousness. When I finished watching the movie, I caught myself wondering, where were all the real men? Where are all the guys who believe in honor, courage, and integrity? What happened to Prince Charming? There was not one single, solitary male character with any substance or intelligence whatsoever in the whole movie. I've also noticed, with the exception of action/adventure or super hero movies, our society is using media to scoff at masculinity. And it’s wrong. 

You go, girls... 

Now believe me, I’m all about girls achieving their dreams, getting their education, and having the same opportunities as boys—I don’t think girls should be denied anything they feel called to pursue based on gender. However, as a mom of boys, I’m a little irritated by the feminist agenda that puts boys down in an effort to lift girls up. It's unnecessary, and it sends the wrong message. I saw it written all over Brave, I see it in shows on Nickelodeon and Disney, and in commercials. I have even written a complaint letter to a company that set a truly heinous example of male stupidity and poor fatherhood in one of their commercials. We need to value each gender for the special qualities God made in us, and like 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says, encourage each other and build each other up...not tear each other down.  

A message for the guys...

Guys, here’s what I want you to know: Regardless of what Hollywood and the liberal agenda tells you, we still need Prince Charming. We need strong men who will stand up for what’s right, get a solid education, provide for their families, protect and support and cheer on their wives and children, guard their homes against evil in any form and be strong leaders under God’s authority. Your masculinity is a gift from God, not something to be ashamed of or hide. So keep growing up into the man God called you to be! 

Your thoughts? 


0 #19 jesusROCKS1234 2013-03-09 22:18
i have the movie, its funny
+3 #18 ninja29 2012-12-29 15:31
i watched the movie and i liked it exept for the witch. but her little brothers weren't dumb when they helped merida get out of her locked bedroom :-?
+3 #17 TrueBloodoftheTrueChrist 2012-11-15 02:08
I never saw it abt this perspective...w ow
+3 #16 DukeHelton 2012-08-18 22:00
can u do a review on mw3
+10 #15 Delightful 2012-08-12 01:25
@Bstar, BTW, I totally agree, but I think a lot of men stood up for women and wrote letters for them, I think some men are respectable enough to have done that in the past.

@Faithful2Godme, I agree as well! Some prince charmings make women look helpless, and I always hate that! Women can be strong, too, but there still is no reason to put down the guys.

Like, I think make the women strong, but make the men smart
(and strong, too, but we are focusing on women here…)
+8 #14 Delightful 2012-08-12 01:19
I personally think that the reason they make movies like that is that if they put down the women like they do the men, they will get sued, because of women's rights laws (and because of the past, when women were not considered "as smart").

So, whoever came up with that thought, "Hey, it's men's turn to be thought of as dumb. This is their 'payback'."

I dont agree with that at all, I think that there should be at least one smart man in that movie.

Delightful has spoken.
+5 #13 Strong_Arm_Luc 2012-08-11 20:22
Talk about Ice Age.... Mrs. Bockmann, can you do a blog on Ice Age 4? Quoting JustMe:
I think that there are still movies with respectable guys!!! Just look at Shrek. The newest one is from 2010. That's not too long ago. And Cars 2. Lightning McQueen is respectable. And Ice Age. Manny and Diego have sense too. And the newest one is a 2012 movie. I just saw it in theaters. And Annoying Orange (both youtube and Cartoon network). Pear and Miget Apple have sense. There Are tons more but i'm not gonna write anymore. In short, personnally, I think your wrong.
+6 #12 Bunnyluv789 2012-08-11 18:10
That's true. They'res a lot of stupid guys on T.V. .........
+7 #11 Running_4_Jesus 2012-08-11 15:01
I think that disney has a lot of subliminal messages in thier movies but no offense people take it to seriously yes they should be worried about smaller children growing up watching this but kids our age i think are mature enough to decide what is right to watch and what is not if they still want to watch it that's thier problem to resolve with God. I think we are sick and tired of adults telling us all the subliminal messages and how horrible they are i think we know. No offense to anyone
+1 #10 Dawn 2012-08-11 03:15

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