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Oh, boy bands...
by Melanie Bockmann

Boy bands are nothing new. 

When I was a teenager, I used to hang out with my friend Nicole who was OBSESSED with the Backstreet Boys. She had posters of them in her room, and we’d flop down on her bed and stare at A.J., Howie, Brian, Nick and Kevin… who all smiled down at us from their poster pictures while Nicole dreamily debated over which of them she would consider marrying.  (Yeah, I know…we were silly…) 

One of the newest boy bands on the scene is One Direction, a group of five guys from the U.K. whose songs like “What Makes You Beautiful,” “Gotta Be You,” and “One Thing” have helped them debut at the top of the charts, and they are touring the U.S. this year singing to crowds of screaming young teen girls.

I listened to the songs and watched the videos, and came to the conclusion that their music is kind of like cotton candy… a lot of fluff, but not a lot of substance. These types of boy bands are pre-packaged and sold to the masses for one thing: to make money. Producers know what the magic formula is, and they play into the fantasy teenage girls have about finding that special someone and falling in love. Think about it: what teen girl wouldn’t like to have a really good looking guy (with four equally good looking friends) with super cool hair look into her eyes and sing to her about how all he wants is her?

I hate to be the one to burst the bubble for the ladies, but having parented four teenage boys, I can assure you that they spend way more time thinking about food, sports, comics, food, music, video games, and food than they do thinking about the potential loves of their lives. Did I mention food? As I listened to song after song by One Direction, I noticed that almost all of their songs are about how they can't live without the girl, that they can't stand being apart from her, that she is wonderful and beautiful and she is the only thing they can think about. Unfortunately, that's not realistic.

The content of the One Direction lyrics is fairly benign, with the exception of a few subtle references to physical contact, and the hooks are catchy. The videos are simple and don’t contain the kinds of “wardrobe malfunctions” and inappropriate situations (at least in the ones I saw) that videos from other popular musicians often contain. I can’t find a lot wrong with them…but I can’t find a lot right with them, either, because everything about them, from their clothing to their hair to the songs they sing, feels fake to me.

Eventually, Nicole and I grew up. Amazingly, neither of us married any of the Backstreet Boys. Looking back, I think that when we got a little older and became more mature, we stopped being sucked into the emotional high of sappy, silly stuff like boy bands. Life became more about what is real, and not just the fantasy.

Sure, the idea of romance and good-looking boys and falling in love is cool. God designed us to fall in love with someone special, and someday that will happen for you. But for now (whether you choose to listen to One Direction or not), my advice is don’t waste your emotions on a poster. Wait for the real thing. :)



+1 #15 Sk8er4God 2014-05-09 21:57
I never liked 1D...or Justin bieber. :-|
+3 #14 mknz12 2013-06-18 03:04
Yeah this girl @ my church was singing a song to the
tune of "Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star" that said something about she was Zayn's future wife :o and there were a bunch of little girls hanging around her talking with her about 1D and my sis and I were looking at each other like :o :sigh:
+4 #13 Hyperactive247 2013-06-08 02:31
Dude.... One moment it was Justin Bieber, and the next is One Direction... What Happened??? :-?
-4 #12 Delightful 2012-09-08 23:18
Quoting heyabby:
No offense to those who love 1D but they are so gay. Their music is okay but they are too much for girls. I mean look at all their concerts...probably you barely see any guys who is an audience cuz mostly you hear SCREAMING from the girls. They think they are so adorable and wishing to marry these boys but I mean they get to choose which one they want..and they dont look at the outside but the inside...I hope that would help you all in the future.

You know what's the worst thing about this comment? It's the fact that the message-checker s for Guide even CONSIDERED THIS APPROPRIATE! Um, they aren't "GAY", they don't even write their own songs! and, uh, if there were any boys screaming at a boy band concert, they'd probably be with their girlfriends, so don't judge. Whoever wrote that, I will be praying for you, and whoever was supposed to checking the messages, I will be praying for your judgement.
+12 #11 Delightful 2012-09-08 23:14
I'm not a super fan, but I think they sound well. And I totally agree, what they sing is not them, they have song-writers.
But then having had a crush on 3/5 of the guys (first Lois, then Harry, then Zayn) I don't think that's wrong either, but just make sure you remember that Jesus is the "One [thing]" "That makes [us] Beautiful" and we are the best thing to Him ever!
+8 #10 40daysoffasting 2012-07-06 22:30
biblegirl, nobody said you could'nt have a crush. so continue "crushing". :lol: :D
+16 #9 40daysoffasting 2012-07-06 22:28
why do people say others are gay, when those others are not, and they have no proof? :-? ( directed to heyabby)
+12 #8 MarianasTrencher 2012-06-29 12:53
Yes, I'm quite aware that I'll never be able to marry any of them. I don't really want to either... I used to not like them at all, and then suddenly one day... BAM! I'm all, "AAAH!!! ONE DIRECTION!!! WOO!!!" Idk... I'm just fangirling Iguess. It's what I do. I'm not "obsessed". Though some girls might be... Idk... but at least 1D isn't as bad as Justin Bieber (in my opinion anyways... I never liked Justin...)
+18 #7 biblegirl48 2012-06-13 02:20
Oh and P.S. heyabby: I think it's unchristian to call them "gay". Do you have the fact's that say that ??!!!?? how would you like it if someone who didn't know you personally called you gay ?? I know i don't know them personally either but I don't go around making accusations that may hurt people like that ??youtu.be/QZodqPTeYsM just saying God love's everyone
+23 #6 biblegirl48 2012-06-13 02:13
ok so me being one of their fan's (don't hate :( ) I think their ok. Unlike Justin Beiber who's music refrences to buying love "I'll buy you any ring..." in one of his song's. But yes i do agree with the fact that girl's do get a little too crazy over boy band's or boy musician's. God does have a special person that we are meant to be with, but is it wrong or illegal to have a crush on someone ??? :P I know it's not right to make that someone an idol with a bunch of poster's but JUST A CRUSH... I'm just saying. You don't have to agree with me nor like what i'm saying. I'm just saying I don't think it's wrong to listen for fun or have a crush on someone. Me being a fan I don't have one single poster, or magazine not all fan's are totally crazy.

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