Guide Confidential
Randy Fishell

A Resource for Dealing with Sexual Temptation and Addiction

Your Changing Lens

You've arrived at an exciting new time in your life. Sometimes too exciting. You have feelings and attractions that surprise you. These feeling are 100 percent natural. They are part of God's plan for you to have a happy life. But maybe you sense that Satan is using these feelings to take you down the wrong path. As you deal with these feelings, never forget that God loves you more than you can imagine. He wants nothing but the best for your life. Satan, on the other hand, wants you to make choices that will put you completely in his control. The misuse of sex is one of his favorite tricks for doing that.

For most of your life you may have had no or little interest in the opposite sex. That's normal. But this usually changes when a person becomes a preteen. That's when guys and girls typically start looking at each other through a new lens-and they like what they see! God intends for this to happen. After all, a genuine, committed, loving relationship between a man and a woman keeps the world full of people.

Sadly, Satan is playing all the angles to turn the beauty of God's gift of sexual intimacy into a cheap thrill. You may have noticed that sexual themes often pop up on TV, movies, the Internet, and even supermarket checkout aisle magazines.

What is a Sexual Addiction?

Let's face it. If you're a preteen, sexual things can be pretty exciting. The problem occurs when you follow Satan's lead and start giving in to sexual temptation. Maybe it's a book or magazine that you keep looking at, or a website or TV show. One thing can lead to another, and before you know it, you can't seem to stop!

There's a reason for this: you're getting addicted. Your brain has begun releasing the "pleasure chemical" dopamine. You like the feeling, so you keep doing things that bring it on. Before you know it, you can't break the cycle.

First Defense

The best way to avoid getting trapped by a sexual addiction is to do everything you can to keep a wide distance from even the little temptations. You can do this is by asking God each day to clothe you in His spiritual armor as listed in Ephesians 6:10-17:

Each day you might pray something like this: "Dear God, please protect me from Satan's attacks today. Put your spiritual armor on me so I can say no to temptation. Thank you. Amen."

Is There Any Hope?

What if you already find yourself trapped by a sexual habit or addiction? It's not easy to break free, but God is on your side! Check this out:

"Look not to self, but Christ. He who healed the sick and cast out demons when He walked among men is the same mighty Redeemer today" (The Desire of Ages, p. 429).

Guide is committed to giving you resources and encouragement to help you navigate these challenging waters. If you're like many young people, you may feel uncomfortable sharing your struggles in the area of sexual temptation. If that sounds like you, Guide Confidential can help.

This section of the Guide website contains sensitive material. It is not intended as a source of entertainment. Rather, it is a place for you to find hope and healing.

Finally, remember that God does not reject you when you fail to reach your goal. Ask for Him to help you face the future with courage, power, and confidence in His unconditional love.

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